Comments on: Your Biggest Obstacle To Marriage: Women 25-30 http://practimate.com/blog/your-biggest-obstacle-to-marriage-women-25-30/ World-Class Pre-Marital Training For Practicing Muslim Singles in the West Sun, 05 Feb 2012 21:24:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: MA http://practimate.com/blog/your-biggest-obstacle-to-marriage-women-25-30/comment-page-4/#comment-3030 MA Tue, 22 Feb 2011 19:18:42 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=228#comment-3030 Salamz: My biggest obstacle to getting married is my lack of confidence. It has taken a beating over the years. Another one is I feel there aren't too many new people that are coming into the community. I wish there was a new way to meet some new people! I feel my age is another factor, I am 30, not the end of the road, but still, I am not young either. Another factor is being a revert and the way people slightly hesitate when dealing with us. That's all for now. Inshallah I hope my kismat opens up this year, I am getting really disheartened by this process. Salamz:

My biggest obstacle to getting married is my lack of confidence. It has taken a beating over the years.

Another one is I feel there aren’t too many new people that are coming into the community. I wish there was a new way to meet some new people!

I feel my age is another factor, I am 30, not the end of the road, but still, I am not young either.

Another factor is being a revert and the way people slightly hesitate when dealing with us.

That’s all for now. Inshallah I hope my kismat opens up this year, I am getting really disheartened by this process.

]]> By: Ameera Heidi http://practimate.com/blog/your-biggest-obstacle-to-marriage-women-25-30/comment-page-4/#comment-3020 Ameera Heidi Fri, 04 Feb 2011 05:10:57 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=228#comment-3020 I am 27 years old, and single, hard to find the right brother, that is good. I am a revert into Islam, and its hard to find good man out there now in days period! When I meet brothers most of them don't want to do the right thing, they want to do Harram, and I don't like it. It suppose to be Halal. So I don't bother to look much now in days, cause hard to trust anyone! I was like to the brothers lets be friends, to get to know each other, but no they want to date, but dating in Islam, is forbidden! So I just walk away from that stuff! Like I am not saying all brothers are bad, it's hard to find the good ones! I feel bad for good brothers, cause bad brothers make the good brothers look bad! Insha'Allah I will find the right one one day hopefully, if not Allah will understand why. It just hard to find any good people now in days, and it's sad. I don't care about the age, or looks, just matters the person is right period! I try my best to do the right thing, and follow the right path, and avoid foridden things! Hard to find good people now in days in America! I am 27 years old, and single, hard to find the right brother, that is good. I am a revert into Islam, and its hard to find good man out there now in days period! When I meet brothers most of them don’t want to do the right thing, they want to do Harram, and I don’t like it. It suppose to be Halal. So I don’t bother to look much now in days, cause hard to trust anyone! I was like to the brothers lets be friends, to get to know each other, but no they want to date, but dating in Islam, is forbidden! So I just walk away from that stuff! Like I am not saying all brothers are bad, it’s hard to find the good ones! I feel bad for good brothers, cause bad brothers make the good brothers look bad! Insha’Allah I will find the right one one day hopefully, if not Allah will understand why. It just hard to find any good people now in days, and it’s sad. I don’t care about the age, or looks, just matters the person is right period! I try my best to do the right thing, and follow the right path, and avoid foridden things! Hard to find good people now in days in America!

]]> By: Alias http://practimate.com/blog/your-biggest-obstacle-to-marriage-women-25-30/comment-page-4/#comment-3018 Alias Fri, 04 Feb 2011 01:14:09 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=228#comment-3018 Age:27 Asslam Alikum: well I was personally not even ready for marriage or the thought didn't even cross my mind till I turned 25. I had some family obstacle come my way that even my parents didn't think about my marriage. Also when I was from 22 till last year I had gained lots of weight. Last year I had the realization that my probability of finding a husband would be more if I can atleast be an average size. I managed to lose 90 lbs and still working on it. In our culture being over weight is pretty much suicide. Anyways I thought losing weight would just make finding the right guy easy but it's not true. If anything there is so much pressure from my family, friends and relatives and they all fail to understand why I am not finding the right guy. Everyday the discussion of my marriage comes up and each day it's getting harder and harder to stay single. But at the end of the day I have to realize that whoever Allah has chosen for me, he will come when Allah has it written Insha'Allah. Age:27
Asslam Alikum: well I was personally not even ready for marriage or the thought didn’t even cross my mind till I turned 25. I had some family obstacle come my way that even my parents didn’t think about my marriage. Also when I was from 22 till last year I had gained lots of weight. Last year I had the realization that my probability of finding a husband would be more if I can atleast be an average size. I managed to lose 90 lbs and still working on it. In our culture being over weight is pretty much suicide. Anyways I thought losing weight would just make finding the right guy easy but it’s not true. If anything there is so much pressure from my family, friends and relatives and they all fail to understand why I am not finding the right guy. Everyday the discussion of my marriage comes up and each day it’s getting harder and harder to stay single. But at the end of the day I have to realize that whoever Allah has chosen for me, he will come when Allah has it written Insha’Allah.

]]> By: No1Muslimah http://practimate.com/blog/your-biggest-obstacle-to-marriage-women-25-30/comment-page-3/#comment-3017 No1Muslimah Fri, 04 Feb 2011 00:47:42 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=228#comment-3017 update to my post not 8 thousand single girls but 8 million single girls in Egypt. update to my post not 8 thousand single girls but 8 million single girls in Egypt.

]]> By: No1Muslimah http://practimate.com/blog/your-biggest-obstacle-to-marriage-women-25-30/comment-page-3/#comment-3016 No1Muslimah Fri, 04 Feb 2011 00:46:28 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=228#comment-3016 I've just turned 33 so I guess I'm too old for this, but I've been deemed "expired" ever since I was 19 according to my culture that has girls married off between the ages of 15-19. I didn't want to get married then because I wanted to go to school. In my culture and society people like me just don't exist. Najma your story very closely resembles mine. But to add to my experiences is that my parents hate me trying to get married. Good girls don't want to get married, it's the bad dirty girls who want to get married. When your naseeb comes he will find his way on his own to your door. We also don't live in a large muslim community (about 100 people including babies and senior citizens)I've tried explaining to my parents, I've tried attending matrimonial events, but I feel with out their blessings it will all be in vain. I begged my mom to give me her blessings, she said the words but I know she doesn't mean them. I'm in this alone, my family is very much against me trying to get married. I've shifted my focus, because our culture now wants girls to get an education and the new expiry date is 25, so I have to figure things out for my sister and help her out before it's too late for her (she is 20). I also keep looking for Islamic ways to meet potential husbands, but no one seems to know the answer. Instead people think I'm insane for asking. One shiekh told me he can't help me because there are 8 000 single girls in Egypt and another told me that there must be something wrong with me to not have been able to attract a man and make him fall in love with me because marriage is the most natural thing to do. So with all this wonderful I move on. Anyways nothing in my life came easy. Yes, el7amdulilah I have shelter and I don't have to hunt my own food, but everything I have other than that I had to break down 1000s of wall to achieve. It's no suprise that this too is a struggle for me. Anyways, I've already decided if I don't get married before I turn 35 I'm going to give up on it. I also was over come by a feeling (sixth sense if you will) when I was 23 (even though I knew I was expired I still hoped to get married) that I will never get married. So far that feeling has proven to be right no matter how much I try to fight the odds. I’ve just turned 33 so I guess I’m too old for this, but I’ve been deemed “expired” ever since I was 19 according to my culture that has girls married off between the ages of 15-19. I didn’t want to get married then because I wanted to go to school. In my culture and society people like me just don’t exist. Najma your story very closely resembles mine. But to add to my experiences is that my parents hate me trying to get married. Good girls don’t want to get married, it’s the bad dirty girls who want to get married. When your naseeb comes he will find his way on his own to your door. We also don’t live in a large muslim community (about 100 people including babies and senior citizens)I’ve tried explaining to my parents, I’ve tried attending matrimonial events, but I feel with out their blessings it will all be in vain. I begged my mom to give me her blessings, she said the words but I know she doesn’t mean them. I’m in this alone, my family is very much against me trying to get married. I’ve shifted my focus, because our culture now wants girls to get an education and the new expiry date is 25, so I have to figure things out for my sister and help her out before it’s too late for her (she is 20). I also keep looking for Islamic ways to meet potential husbands, but no one seems to know the answer. Instead people think I’m insane for asking. One shiekh told me he can’t help me because there are 8 000 single girls in Egypt and another told me that there must be something wrong with me to not have been able to attract a man and make him fall in love with me because marriage is the most natural thing to do. So with all this wonderful I move on. Anyways nothing in my life came easy. Yes, el7amdulilah I have shelter and I don’t have to hunt my own food, but everything I have other than that I had to break down 1000s of wall to achieve. It’s no suprise that this too is a struggle for me. Anyways, I’ve already decided if I don’t get married before I turn 35 I’m going to give up on it. I also was over come by a feeling (sixth sense if you will) when I was 23 (even though I knew I was expired I still hoped to get married) that I will never get married. So far that feeling has proven to be right no matter how much I try to fight the odds.

]]> By: Aisha http://practimate.com/blog/your-biggest-obstacle-to-marriage-women-25-30/comment-page-3/#comment-3015 Aisha Thu, 03 Feb 2011 23:14:41 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=228#comment-3015 Knowing who is the right person! I have tried istikhara a couple of times on 2 different people but I keep liking more and more the one where I know is not halal :-( Knowing who is the right person! I have tried istikhara a couple of times on 2 different people but I keep liking more and more the one where I know is not halal :-(

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