Comments on: The Marriage Of Your Dreams http://practimate.com/blog/the-marriage-of-your-dreams/ World-Class Pre-Marital Training For Practicing Muslim Singles in the West Mon, 06 Sep 2010 07:02:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Muslimatunn http://practimate.com/blog/the-marriage-of-your-dreams/comment-page-2/#comment-2894 Muslimatunn Tue, 16 Feb 2010 20:52:13 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=199#comment-2894 I dream of marrying a man who is emotionally strong and financially independent, whom I can understand and who is always kind with me. I dream of marrying a man who is emotionally strong and financially independent, whom I can understand and who is always kind with me.

]]> By: Muslima http://practimate.com/blog/the-marriage-of-your-dreams/comment-page-2/#comment-2879 Muslima Sun, 14 Feb 2010 19:03:40 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=199#comment-2879 First of all, what you people are doing is simply amazing! Jazakum Allah khair! I am a 23 years old unmarried girl, and I just want to share a piece of thought - you may call it an advice - with all those reading these postings [both men and women]. This is something I have learned from my recent past experience. Before you start searching for a life partner, you should FIRST always clear things out with your parents. I mean, your parents should be the first ones to know what your expectations are from your future life partner. This stands particularly important for the men who leave the final decision about their marriage solely on their parents - which is a common practice in many cultures, though not a requirement in Islam. And I'll explain why. You see, if a girl gets a proposal that her parents agree to, but she doesn't, she has the right to say No to the proposal and her parents do not have the right, according to Islam, to force her into that marriage. But if a man proposes to a woman, and both the man and the woman feel compatible enough to get married to each other, but later on the MAN'S parents refuse to accept the girl as their daughter-in-law, then that may have a serious psychologically negative impact on the girl. So please my brothers in Islam, be careful that you do not end up messing things like this, as it may affect you too in some psychological way. We are all, as single Muslims, both men and women, immature about how to go about building up this most intimate of all relationships. And my intention of sharing this with you was that I felt perhaps I could benefit someone with what I had to learn the hard way out. Wassalamu alaykum wa rehmatullah! First of all, what you people are doing is simply amazing! Jazakum Allah khair! I am a 23 years old unmarried girl, and I just want to share a piece of thought - you may call it an advice - with all those reading these postings [both men and women]. This is something I have learned from my recent past experience. Before you start searching for a life partner, you should FIRST always clear things out with your parents. I mean, your parents should be the first ones to know what your expectations are from your future life partner. This stands particularly important for the men who leave the final decision about their marriage solely on their parents - which is a common practice in many cultures, though not a requirement in Islam. And I’ll explain why. You see, if a girl gets a proposal that her parents agree to, but she doesn’t, she has the right to say No to the proposal and her parents do not have the right, according to Islam, to force her into that marriage. But if a man proposes to a woman, and both the man and the woman feel compatible enough to get married to each other, but later on the MAN’S parents refuse to accept the girl as their daughter-in-law, then that may have a serious psychologically negative impact on the girl. So please my brothers in Islam, be careful that you do not end up messing things like this, as it may affect you too in some psychological way. We are all, as single Muslims, both men and women, immature about how to go about building up this most intimate of all relationships. And my intention of sharing this with you was that I felt perhaps I could benefit someone with what I had to learn the hard way out. Wassalamu alaykum wa rehmatullah!

]]> By: Khan http://practimate.com/blog/the-marriage-of-your-dreams/comment-page-2/#comment-2860 Khan Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:11:33 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=199#comment-2860 I would like a wife just as described by Sister Amatullah however, in her case she needs a husband. I would like a wife just as described by Sister Amatullah however, in her case she needs a husband.

]]> By: Fragile http://practimate.com/blog/the-marriage-of-your-dreams/comment-page-2/#comment-2856 Fragile Tue, 09 Feb 2010 16:45:20 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=199#comment-2856 I wish to marry a man who will always be gentle with me, and if Allah bestows me with such a husband, I dream to inshaAllah bring the deen of Islam to his home and (our) children to the best of my ability. Jazak Allah khair. I wish to marry a man who will always be gentle with me, and if Allah bestows me with such a husband, I dream to inshaAllah bring the deen of Islam to his home and (our) children to the best of my ability. Jazak Allah khair.

]]> By: a_hidden_pearl_pk http://practimate.com/blog/the-marriage-of-your-dreams/comment-page-2/#comment-2809 a_hidden_pearl_pk Mon, 25 Jan 2010 12:23:13 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=199#comment-2809 1) a peacuful married life built on: truth, sincerity, love, mercy, understanding and devotion... 2) being comfort of the eyes, and peace of the heart for each other... 3) walking on the way to Jannah supportig each other... 4) together forever... (being best for each other in deen, dunya and aakhirah) 5) having pious offsprings... INSHA ALLAH! may all my muslim brothers' and sisters' dreams come true... Aameen! 1) a peacuful married life built on:
truth, sincerity, love, mercy, understanding and devotion…
2) being comfort of the eyes, and peace of the heart for each other…
3) walking on the way to Jannah supportig each other…
4) together forever… (being best for each other in deen, dunya and aakhirah)
5) having pious offsprings…
INSHA ALLAH!

may all my muslim brothers’ and sisters’ dreams come true… Aameen!

]]> By: amatullah http://practimate.com/blog/the-marriage-of-your-dreams/comment-page-2/#comment-2807 amatullah Fri, 22 Jan 2010 18:07:07 +0000 http://practimate.com/blog/?p=199#comment-2807 my dream marriage would be a simple family life where I've a husband whom I can trust, who lowers his gaze for the sake of Allah, who stays up at night for qiyam & prays with me, where I've a partner who has so much haya that he doesn't like free-mixing neither wanna mix with non-mahrams (if it is inevitable such as at work thats different) whther its my sisters/sisters-in-laws or his sisters-in-laws or any other sister in islam who is his non-mahram. In short a good life with a man who have ijjah, who doesn't let me mix with non-mahram neither he mixes with his ghair mahram. Loves me & only me for the sake of Allah (no second marriage untill I die) & provides for me & my kids in future. Who is strong in his deen & has much taqwa. If he turns out to be a sincere, pious, family man then alhamdulillah because I'm also verrrry simple & family oriented. I want him to give me attention when I need it. If I do any mistakes then try to correct me nicely & be my friend. I didn't have any 'true friend' throughout my life. Thus I want a hubby who takes care of me like my parents, chill with me like my buddy & guides me when I need it. If I get a husband who has such taqwa & sense of ghirah I'll be ready to leave my professional life for him but the thing is how many brothers lower their gaze now-a-days?!! I don't understand whats the meaning of keeping beard if they can't control their nafs. May Allah guide us all & grant us righteous spouses! Ameen. my dream marriage would be a simple family life where I’ve a husband whom I can trust, who lowers his gaze for the sake of Allah, who stays up at night for qiyam & prays with me, where I’ve a partner who has so much haya that he doesn’t like free-mixing neither wanna mix with non-mahrams (if it is inevitable such as at work thats different) whther its my sisters/sisters-in-laws or his sisters-in-laws or any other sister in islam who is his non-mahram. In short a good life with a man who have ijjah, who doesn’t let me mix with non-mahram neither he mixes with his ghair mahram. Loves me & only me for the sake of Allah (no second marriage untill I die) & provides for me & my kids in future. Who is strong in his deen & has much taqwa. If he turns out to be a sincere, pious, family man then alhamdulillah because I’m also verrrry simple & family oriented.

I want him to give me attention when I need it. If I do any mistakes then try to correct me nicely & be my friend. I didn’t have any ‘true friend’ throughout my life. Thus I want a hubby who takes care of me like my parents, chill with me like my buddy & guides me when I need it.

If I get a husband who has such taqwa & sense of ghirah I’ll be ready to leave my professional life for him but the thing is how many brothers lower their gaze now-a-days?!! I don’t understand whats the meaning of keeping beard if they can’t control their nafs. May Allah guide us all & grant us righteous spouses! Ameen.

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