The Marriage Of Your Dreams
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Please tell us:
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When it comes to marriage…
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- What do you DREAM about the MOST?
- What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
- What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
Remember: Your dreams and aspirations do NOT have to
be rational. They can be completely irrational. No problem.
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I dream about: Someone who looks after me, protects me, is always there for me. Someone who loves truly and does not fake it. Someone who waits for me before i get home.
Wants & Aspirations: RAising kids who love their deen and find pride in it, and who are little copies of the Prophet SAWS. Obviously, my husband has to strive for these qualities as well (I do this, honestly, I do)
Dreaming about: True love and care and passion
I dream(well, mostly think)about someone whose perfect in every way. Is that too much to ask for? Apparently it is. I not only want a perfect husband but a perfect best friend as well. Someone I can lean on for support whether itsfinancially, emotionally, physically whatever I need he is there to help. Whenever I’m around him I feel safe, secure, stable, loved. Someone who feels the same about me as I feel about him.
I can go on and on but I think I’ve made my point. I dream about marrying the perfect man for me. Someone who just gets me…you know?
The marriage of my dreams is just a reality in which my husband and I work towards the same goals in life, increase each other’s faith and self-worth, and live/raise our kids in the manner that is pleasing to Allah. It’s only by the tawfeek of Allah that we see in each other that we can simply have a family togather, but we have to compromise for each other. We muslims have complicated marraige along with so many things in our lives.
The main dream I have when I think about a happy marriage is to have a loving affectionate relationship, to feel wanted, needed and appreciated, and to experience what it really means to be garments for each other.
Assalaam alaikum
Firstly - I’m very excited and proud of what the Practimate team is doing, May Allah reward you.
Bismillah.
Dream about most - An amazing wife to be at my side; to celebrate the best of life with as well as companionship during the tests.
Wants and Aspirations - Get married while I’m young (young’s subjective), develop a very strong relationship with my wife(-ves), be a family that brings tremendous value to the da’wah, we’re supportive of each other’s dreams, be a role model for future generations inshaAllah (as a family, husband, father etc), and ultimately to make the marriage a means to please Allah, azza wa jall.
Stay Up dreaming about - hmm “when will I get on with this stuff and get married…”
I’m not one for long posts, but hey it’s the topic that really got me going.
Peace Out,
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Plus - it’d be good to clarify what you mean by dreams, aspirations etc because if someone doesnt get it at first glance they may not comment.
Salaam,
Ok inshallah, the marriage of my dreams…
AFTER her having a great understanding of the deen (evident thorugh her actions)…
I dream of a sister who is incredibly caring and open. What I mean by open is she really is willing to speak her mind about any concerns. She will not supress it, then go around depressed, complaining to her friends she’s stuck in a horrrible marriage. She’s one to make the marriage WORK and BE a SUCCESS. She believes in this marriage.
I dream of marrying a sister with great goals. She wants to be a changer, a mover. She wants to inspire a nation, and we both have these common goals that we can help each other accomplish inshaallah.
I dream of a sister who will recognise the responsibilites I HAVE to fulfill, and will SACRIFICE just some of her pleasures in order to help me fulfill them. For example, my mother might be moving abroad soon. Is that sister willing to TEMPORARILY stop going to seminars and doing Da’wah and come over and help me look after my mother whilst she is still alive? Then obviously we can come back, but I HAVE to look after my mother. Avoiding the fire depends on it.
In summary A sister who:
- Has incredible Manners. Akhlaaq and Adhaab - No.1 Priority.
- Is still romantic 30 years into a marriage, and not just 1/2 years.
- Is willing to make sacrifices to help me fulfill my resopnsibilities inshaallah, as a husband/son/father/teacher.
And Allah knows best,
Wa’aalikum salaam.
What do you dream about the most?
What are some of your wants and aspirations?
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
Assalamu Alykum
My dream marriage…and I won’t be quoting a long list…
is one where ‘I’ am able to fulfill my husband’s expectations and make him happy and win his heart…
Float on the cloud - A marriage similar to that of the Prophet’s (s) with Khadija (r) with numerous kids running around the house, both adopted and those born to us
Back to earth - May Allah SWT help me find a brother to get married to first. Ameen.
JazakAllahu Khair,
As Salaamu alaykum
My dream marriage would be to have a pious caring kind muslima as a wife who cares for me and our children and wants us to enter jannah and not hell.
The perfect husband for me would be someone who will never give up on me. Everyone has shortcomings, he should be willing to forgive and forget and help me instead of ridiculing me and abusing me (verbally or physically). He would love after his mother and would take care of his children and help me in raising them. He would be rational when it comes to arguments between his mother and wife.
Asalamu Alaikum,
Bismillah
The most important quality I would like to have in a husband is willingness to learn more about the Deen and sincerity in doing so.
Someone who demonstrates fear, love and hope of Allah.
Someone who tries to implement the Sunnah in his life, on all levels, like how the Prophet(SAW) dealt with other people, his manners, etc.
A person with a good character-humble, honest, sincere, likes to compromise, a good communicator, good listener, open, trustworthy, loyal, flexible, forgiving etc.
Someone who views his wife as a companion and best friend. Asking for advise and giving advice. Supporting and helping her achieve her goals.
Wants to develop a strong relationship which includes love, romance and all that good stuff
A person who wants to be involved in his family’s life, not only providing financially, but emotionally as well. Wouldn’t mind helping around the house, really enjoys teaching and playing with kids.
A person who works for the Deen, using his talents whatever they are, to benefit the Ummah.
1. Someone who truly loves Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and His Prophet peace and blessings be upon him
2. Someone who gets me to jannah
3. Some one who loves me for who I am
4. Someone who will let us as a family follow our dreams together
(each aspect is incumbent on the other one, you don’t have anything if you don’t have the first one.)
My dream is the following Dua
“Allahuma Ikhtarli Wela-tikheyirni” meaning “O Allah (You) choose for me (my dream wife) and let not leave it to myself”
I dream of marriage to a husband who loves me and is as in-love with me as I am with him. I dream of someone who makes Allah his priority and never stops his quest to learn. I dream of someone who has a great personality and makes me laugh often. I dream of someone who has a vision for his life and for our future children if Allah wills.
my dream marriage would be filled with love,compassion & honesty.we would respect each other & have a trusting commitment.our deen would grow stronger & we would live accordingly.if we were in a room of many people we would only see each other.i am older now,a widow,but i am lonely wishing to find a man whoes qualities are as i described.i would cook his favorite meals,make his tea or coffee with dessert afterwards,have good conversation.we would love unconditionally.inasha allah !
(my comment got messed up in the formatting so here is my second attempt!)
What do you dream about the most?
A decent Muslim husband who has a basic knowledge of the Quran and Sunnah, offers Salah regularly and, from the initial interactions and right through the marriage ceremony, will stick to the Sunnah ways (which includes a “segregated” wedding and no pre-wedding chit chat under the guise of an “engagement”)!
What are some of your wants and aspirations?
One should always pray for the best and for me, that would be a well dressed, easy going Muslim man who would like to see marriage as a stepping stone to a better life - a chance to complete his Deen. I’d love it even more if his family was Islam-oriented too and open hearted because I hope to have build great relationships with them. I also aspire to raise a family with Islamic principles and for that to be possible, my husband and I would have to be on the same page.
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
A good husband and only Allah(swt) knows who would be the kind of person to really make me happy. What I know and wish for is that my husband would have a strong but caring personality so that I could respect him and his decisions and also be able to advise him and consult with him. At the end of the day, it all about finding a partner to share life’s moments with, travel with and learn more and more about the Deen together.
My prayer to Allah swt is for a husband who realizes how important marriage is and earnestly work towards building the relationship. Fear Allah and don’t become heedless. We can study deen together and practice it, insha Allah. Find love and mercy in your heart that Allah swt has given you, for your spouse. At least try!and do your best. Build a relationship on trust.
I say all this is because there is no such thing as Perfect husband/wife or perfect relationship. We are all human beings, not God. Perfection is only attributed to Allah swt. But, it is imperative to try and make the relationship a success for the sake of Allah swt…
….And I will try my best, insha Allah.
Praying together
Studying Quran & Arabic together
Hajj
Going for walks in nature, having halal fun together
Don’t have to spend all time together, or talk all the time - not smothering; definitely quality over quantity
Cooperating on some Islamic projects together
Feeling close and comfortable even in silence
Comforting each other after a hard day
Trust and loyalty and caring
Being able to laugh, talk about problems and not being defensive, closed off. Forgiving and forgetting nature.
Advice and reminding in a calm, caring atmosphere
Asalamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatulah
As a women, I want a husband who I feel secure with. Someone who I know has eyes for me and only me. Someone who can look over my shortcomings the way I will look over his shortcomings. Someone who will give me a stable life and will push me to do better in this this life and the next. I want an affectionate relationship, a loving relationship someone who puts his family first before anyone and anything and inshaAllah I will be doing the same. I want someone who appreciates me bottom line
I feel like this is all about me, but khair its my dream anyways. InshaAllah I hope to do the same for my husband, it wont be a one way street inshaAllah. He will be one of my many ways to get into jannah being a good wife…
A Sista
Assalamu aleykum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu,
I dream of the ideal hubby: very God-conscious but also with great humanist character, physically attractive and possess strong leadership skills while loving to listen and consult me .
also a man that I am perfectly compatible with in every way. And finally a loving man who makes me his top priority after God SWT
My deams and aspirations with that kind of man in my life is to establish a happy and fulfilled marriage bi idni Allah and raise incha Allah great kids in order to benefit Humanity in some way in the future.
1) To allow me to work and provide for my family while my brothers get on their feet
2) I will look after his family, especially his parents
3) I want him to aid me in completing my memorisation of the Qur’an
4) I want to g study at Madinah Uni, in their school of shariah and I want him to be there with me too
I dream with someone I can be sure he is going to be a great example for our kids, that he is a good muslim, and that take care of me, love me, and talk to me every time he is thinking something about us, or his dreams, I want a partner to share the rest of my life
I dream of finding someone that not only makes me happy but my family as well. Someone who is a good Muslim and has a open mind. I Dream that ill have a husband that i can be there for me when i need him and will protect me and take care of me.
I want to be happy and be able to talk about anything and everything with this person with no judgments. I want to have children who will love and strive for the Great religion Islam is. InshAllah
I want a man who will be just and fair to me, and give me a reason when he doesn’t want me to do something or to do something.
InshAllah
Assalamualykum
Bismillahirahmaniraheem
My dreams and aspirations do not have to be rational but this is what I dream about anyway:
A Muslim man who loves Allah (swt) and Muhammad (saw). After that his parents and then me :)I want someone who has eyes ONLY for me.
He should be pious, conscious, intellectual, generous, optimistic, compatible.
I want to feel safe around him. Someone who is romantic even after 15 years of marriage.
Someone who doesn’t lie. I want him to be completely honest from the forefront. If I were to find out that he was only telling half of the story I would lose some trust & of course no one wants that especially from their spouse. Everyone has the right to be happy so why make the other emotionally distraught.
I want someone tall and physically attractive
Someone who knows how to recite beautifully and who is steady in his prayer. I want him to be knowledgeable so that he may teach me and so I may teach him.
Someone who isn’t verbally or physically abusive-reading stories of abuse really makes me cry.
I want to know what I’m getting into before I accept and so I want someone who is very open and willing to tell the truth. He should feel comfortable to talk to me instead of being all mopey and depressed. I’m not a mind-reader. He shouldn’t put up a happy-face if he isn’t really happy. My happiness lies in his and so there shouldn’t be an issue.
I want their family to love me and my family to love him. I want my parents to be happy with him and his accomplishments.
I want someone who aspires to be as Muhammad (saw) and actually acts upon that goal.
I want someone educated and not lazy. Someone who likes food but is also willing to help me cook simply because he likes spending time with me. Someone who loves me as much as I love him. Someone who understands me and respects me.
Someone who will run the extra mile. Someone who respects my desires. I want him to be happy and I don’t want to feel like he has a burden because of something I may have asked him to do. Someone who is willing to point out things I may be doing wrong and teach me lovingly.
Someone willing to compromise. One who trusts me and doesn’t doubt me or my abilities.
Someone who isn’t afraid to speak up and speak out. An active leader. Someone socially friendly. Someone who knows the values of family. Someone who will teach my kids to be good Muslims.
& if he has nice eyes, hey its the fully package.
I want what I myself strive to do. May Allah guide me& help me to be a better Muslimah. So that I may be… what I want for in a husband, inshallah.
I dream that the one i want so much will propose to my family from his own heart and own will.
I just want him to be there and I want to be with him, I want to be contented n greatful - i don’t have any high expectations - even if he gets annoyed n may SEEM ungentle, i want him to love me for who i am, overlooking, but also one to help me improve even if he be strict - i know in the long run it is for my benefit, it is important that we be forgiving to one another - I don’t expect perfection at all
I dream of patience, gratitude, giggles and smiles, affection and being silly together & also having a mother-in-law who will be kinder to me than my own mother! - even my mum prays I get that!
I want him to be a bit older than me too!
I dream about having a husband who understands me. He is patient, very manly and strong, has a cute sensitive side that only I get to see, my best friend, can dress himself, can make me laugh, has street smarts, people smarts, book smarts, thirsty for knowledge, self-motivating, is his own person, is very fair in decisions, has common sense, the best manners, many interests, athletic, competitive, suave, romantic, has good taste in everything, can cook, is a handyman, great at fixing cars and everything else, and just somehow understands everything.
I want to be able to make food for him better than anyone else, and he’ll never want to go anywhere else. I somehow manage to keep our home and family perfectly organized, always on time, and ready for anything. We are the best of the best. We fuel each other, we are capable of handling each others’ tasks in case (God forbid) one of us gets sick, or just simply needs a break. We are more than enough for each other, and I couldn’t be more greatful. Because we manage to stay so healthy, by the Will of Allah, we grow old gracefully, still in really good shape, adventurous, we end up becoming scholars in every field, we’ve established every kind of institution imaginable and the unimaginable ones too! We leave behind perfect Muslim kids, hundreds of institutions in the name of Allah that have massive baraqa. He thinks I’m the most beautiful girl he’s ever seen, and that never changes, and I’ll think he’s the most handsome Muslim I’ve ever seen and that never changes.
I want and aspire for us to be competitive together - in deen, athletics, modes and methods of doing things (survival of the smartest!), and whatever quirks we may have. I want him to win all the races we enter in, but I still beat him
I stay up dreaming about…..have you ever seen the movie Mulan? Mulan figures out how to get to the top of the pole by using both weights. The weights were holding everyone down, until she figured out how to make the weights work together. A husband and wife are like the weights that need one another to get to the top, Inshallah the very top of heaven. So after the Day of Judgment,Inshallah, I hope to meet him there again. Inshallah, Inshallah, Inshallah!
I dream of a deen driven brother who puts Allah & His Messenger first. Someone with a beautiful character like patience, mercy, forgiveness. Someone who respects me and takes me as I am even with all my shortcomings. Someone who is willing to be my closest freind, fellow student of knowledge….someone who finds happiness in being with me other than fulfillig desires which is important aspect as welll…someone who doesn’t hurt me pshyically or emotionally because I’ve seen that with others and it’s what turned me off from marriage for a long time, I hope that he doesn’t just prove my fears by being like that.
I ask Allah to grant me what my heart desires….kuluna, ameen
Assaalamu Alaikum Wa Ramatullahi Wa Barakatuhu:
I dream of a marriage to a pious Muslim man with a kind heart; He would respect me, adore me, and spend time with our children. In my dream my husband would be willing to help around the house like our beloved prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and strive to please Allah.
Ma’salaama
When it comes to marriage…
* What do you DREAM about the MOST?
I dream about being with someone that I want to be with! Quite simply having someone who’s company I want to be in, someone to laugh with, someone to share my quirks and life with.
* What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
My wants and aspirations are that we work as a unit, that both of us are big enough to help each other achieve individual goals as well as combined ones. My greatest aspiration is to become a parent, and to be successful in raising a muslim / muslimah.
* What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
I dream about being with someone that can make me smile in a way that no other can.
Insha’Allah.
salamo alykum,
First of all thanks for giving me an opportunity to share my thoughts on this important topic. my ideal husband is someone who is honest, trustworthy,loving, caring, attractive with great personality. A person who is a good muslim and love me for who i am. a husband who wants to bring a positive change in the world and also helps me to achieve the same goals. some one who i can trust the most after ALLAH Subhan o Tallah, who helps me to learn dean and helps me to get closer to Jannah.someone who is willing to understand me who is willing to share his views in another a best friend.
ASA-I want to be the best Muslimah and wife, mother and daughter I can be. I pray for a helpmate that his first focus is on his Deen, being accountable for himself and his Deen, next being focused on being a successful Muslim, husband, father and son. I seek someone who follows the middle path of the Quraan and Sunnah and is thoroughly emersed in Islam in all aspects of his life. Dunya comes last, and Deeds pleasing to Allah comes first. I want to be with a man that appreciates the type of woman I am and is in desire of the type of woman I am that is I am ; seeking monogamy, Islamicically immersed, nurturing, a great communicator, self-sufficent and able, obedient and honoring of her man, fun loving, health conscious helpful and generous.
He should be strong in good character, hardworking, emotionally balanced, fiscally responsible, and morally upright.
Ms Salaama.
Nadirah
Assalaam alaikum
Deen - Obedient to Allah and her husband, keeper of secrets
Lineage- From Ahlul Bayt, the family of Muhammad (SAW)
Family- known for piety
Beauty - Qurrata ayn, a delight to the eye
Wealth - She comes from a family that is neither poor nor very rich
And to add the cherry to the cake, The Walee offers me and i say yes of course, and the meeting and the nikaah all concluded in a day.
Wa alaikum salaam
What do you DREAM about the MOST?
- What I dream about the most in a marriage is to have a loving marriage, open communication, that we both understand eachother, support eachother and learn to be better Muslims. To travel and have that spark, connection, conversation and chemistry.
What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
I want an everlasting commitment. Aspire to go to Jannat with the help of my future husband inshaAllah
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
To Be with a True Gentleman.
Assalamu’alykum warahmatullah…
Seems like the questions are almost similar….
What do you DREAM about the MOST?
Having a great marriage based on good niyyah “LILLAHITAALA”
A great pious husband who takes marriage as something valuable and willing to sacrifice life because of Allah..make Allah number one and the priority ever…
What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
My “wants” are to be able to give service as ALLAH’s servant, a wife, a mother and friend…
ASPIRATIONS: having cute kids, raised according to QUran and Sunnah..
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
Get things done quickly, start working, start a family….
mariage of my dream is someone who is learning the deen of ALLAH and teaching poeple at the sametime and someone who wants for both of us to learn together. if the person is fulfilling the deen of ALLAH and making allah and the heareafter firt then he becames capable of fulling all other aspects in life if ALLAH helps him insha allah.
Reality dictates getting married in the American Muslim Community is rare to impossible for someone who wasn’t born in this country. If a miracle does happen I wish for:
I’d like that my wife takes our faith seriously. Hopefully she will not be the one who considers Salaah, Fasting and Charity as acts of extremism and we’ll be able to raise our next generation that values their faith in spirit and in practice.
I’d like to find a lady who respects her parents and is aware of our responsibilities at this very moment and when our parents will get old. I will serve my parents the way they served me when I depended on them. I hope I’ll find someone who values our relationships with our parents, so we are supportive of each other.
Have a marriage that is JANNAH-CLASS
My dream is for my husband to practice Islam because he understand and appreciate it rather than just following it blindly. For him to continue to learn and get inspired. I want him to share his knowledge and apply it. I want him to teach our children quran, deen and practice it with them. I want him to have ambition, goal and to continue to seek knowlege in the field of his passion. I want him to respect, love, and admire me. Honesty and integrity is a must.
Why are so many sisters leaving their responses…and why are the brothers’ responses so scary :S
Salamoalaikum Wa Rehmatullah e Wa Barakatuhu,
To be very honest I dream mostly about having sex in a legal manner acceptable in Islam. After, that I dream about getting stronger in faith. Which I believe, that after 2nd and 3rd marriage I will not look upon other women which is my biggest hurdle in getting stronger in faith currently.
Also, to have kids, lots of kids that I can bring them up to be strong in faith and be good muslims. I hope to have a good muslimahs who will help me raising them in a good manner.
Best and Kind regards.
Shah Z. K.
What I dream about the most:
), and for me to understand and appreciate him. I think this would strengthen our relationship and create a firm foundation of love insha’Allah, and allow us to be best friends. Of course he should also be strong in his deen, knowledgeable, and have no problem helping out around the house 
Ending up with someone who will truly understand me at all the different levels. Everyone has their own complexities and uniqueness — I’d like my future husband to understand and appreciate mine (and to not think I’m weird
What are some of your wants and aspirations?
To marry someone who can provide a stable income, who has the same understanding of Islam as I do (one of the points in top 10 myths about marriage covered problem of religious Muslims getting married but then having different understanding of Islam), and who will also be fun to be married to — I don’t wan’t to be bored by him and don’t want him to find me boring either.
What do you stay up at night dreaming about.
I don’t stay up at night dreaming about marriage. But I do ‘dream’ about having a perfect relationship with the person I marry, where we are best friends and caring towards each other, and always an emotional support to each other. I think this is in line with the Islamic concept of husband and wife being each other’s garments. I think this equates to ‘true love’.
ASA, The marriage of my dreams would be-
A muslima /wife who loves the deen and understands it very well,
who hates shirk small or big as the way she hates to be thrown in hell,
And that she will care about me and knows i will protect her, also has good manners.
she doesnt have to be rich or very beautiful.
Asalam alaikum,
My dreams are the following:
What I dream about most would be to have a husband that would be strong in deen, protect me and our family, be loving and affectionate and yet still strong and a leader for our family. Someone who will take on the role for my kids as a father, and will teach us and guide us.
I want for us to be best friends as well as husband and wife, to lean on eachother in good and bad times, and to keep communication open and honest.
What I stay up worrying about is marrying someone that is strong in deen and that I will be told “oh you will grow to love eachother”, and then to marry this person with this belief and have a distant and unloving and strained marraige. I would rather wait and marry someone that I have some spark with on the first meeting, and that he would have strong charachter and deen and we would be as close as two people can be and grow and learn together.
I stay up at nigh dreaming about a woman in my arms. I am her Hero. She is the one. No secret left behind. All of her talents and beauties are mine and I am hers. And love…..
Marriage is warm meals, cozy house, love rooms, and a human being who worse sharing emotion, spirituality, and children with. Some people are experiencing a partnership that is connected with rob of sexual attraction. I do not want to build on such a fragile foundation. Sexuality orchestrates the life but it is not enough for lifelong …….
I value education and we should learn from each other and world around us.
My aspiration is to have someone next to me who I protect and receive consultations and support from as two minds are better than one and God created genders so they can attach easier.
Marriage to me is there to trigger even faster speed of advancement and should not be a net.
We should pass on massage of Quran to our children.
Assalamu aleykum warahmatulla
I dream about the most having agreat marriage based an good niyah agreat pious hasband who understand the valu of having own family wife and kids if Allah gives to . and makes Allah nuber one and the prority ever
my wants are to be able to give service as Allahservant a wife ,a mother and a friend.and the seckend is that the man must be honnest to me what ever happyness because of Allah the man must understand sunahhtu rasulullaah swc . iam looking for such kind hasband and graet father of my kids insha Allah tacala .iam geting tried becuose of my hasband who makes me sad all the time I really love him with all my heart and I was always honnest to him but know he distroy me I mean he live me tru me out of his home and know I live alone with any one and i need to cher life with some one who really understand haqul zowjeen .and who really understand the meaning of having family .having fun and love and so onromance with his wife and a man who give advace to and who askes an advace to his wife .
Salaam
I dream of Allah fearing brother who follow Islam the way the sahaba did. I dream of marriage that is base on honesty, trustwarthyness and most of all can communicate with me.
I want practicing Muslim brother with good personality.
I want a brother who would love me for who I am, who is compfortable with me as I am with him. now is that too much to ask? I hope not.
Simply: my dream marriage would be *blissful*
Regardless of what actually ends up happening, I just want to feel safe and peaceful with my future spouse. I want my marriage to be a HAVEN in every way inshaa’Allah.
I dream of traveling to seek knowledge together, establishing a secure home, and helping each other strive towards our goals. Inshaa’Allah…
Bismillah,
My dream marriage
To get married to a Muslimah that does her best to be what Allah wants her to be. I want my wife and I to love each other very strongly and intimatly. I want the love we have in the first periods of marriage to never fade out to grow as time goes on. I want to be an excellent husband to her so that I can always make her happy. I want her to know when to give me space when I’m having a problem and when to engage with me. I would love for her to be beautiful and love to beautify her self for me :-), (hey, you can ask Allah for everything and then be happy with what you have right). I want, inshal Allah, to have a beautiful family with her with bright children who will be a great benefit to the deen of Allah. Then finally, while skipping something, to be with her in the highest levels of jannah enjoying an eternity with her :-).
What Do I Dream About the Most?
Ok, this is gonna sound weird, but I know what I mean: finding a man with the good manners of a sufi, but the aqeedah of the salaf. (I have so far only found brothers who ARE sufi and the aqeedah is wrong, or brothers who SAY they follow the manhaj of the salaf, but are harsh and rigid with no adaab. At 39, I dream of even getting married again at all. (Was married once before.) Seems most brothers are only interested in sisters 30 and younger.
Wants and Aspirations?
I want a brother who is serious about his responsibilities towards his family because he wants to earn Allah’s pleasure. I want to be a wife my husband can depend on and know that I can function and keep things together when he is away. I want to know that he has MY back as well. I want a marriage in which we are not afraid to talk to each other about our fears, and in which we encourage and help each other in our goals. My aspiration is to have a marriage in which we encourage and support the best in each other, read Quran together, have darus as a family, explore and ponder Allah’s creations together, make time to chill together AND apart. I want a brother who is protective of me, normally protective, not controlling or a stalker-type.
Stay Up Dreaming About?
I don’t let this actually keep me up, but I dream about finding a brother who is on point with his deen but still keeps traditions from his culture that would be halal in Islam; who enjoys sharing cooking tasks and helping keep our place clean, peaceful and comforting; who is interested in having just one wife; who appreciates my talents and I appreciate his; who wants to help me work on a special project I have; and with whom I can have great halal intimacy!
Marriage of my dreams:
- I can comprmise everyhting and anything except for the DEEN. The Brother should love and follow the commandments of Allah swt to the best of his ability and strive to follow the sunnah of Rasool Allah saws. Other things like money and looks are secondary because these things can come and go.
- Patient Brother who will love me for who I am.
- Bottom Line: Sincere brother who wants to be a Better Muslim.
As-Salaamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barkatu
Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
I would first like to comment on a few of your statements.
#36:Man of God.
I was pretty shocked at your comment about being unable to get married to an American Muslimah because you are not native to this country. I don’t know where you are from, but if you are from a muslim country, you are like a rare commodity for we American Muslimahs. I personally would like to marry a foreigner from a muslim country but, I didn’t think foreigners would be interested.
#40:Shah Z.K.
Alhamdullilah you want to get married for that purpose, it is highly recommended that you do so if that is your main concern. As for having three wives, it takes a whole lot for a man to manage this. I hope you are strong enough to handle this enormous task. One woman is a lot to handle let alone three. But if you honestly feel that you will be able to fulfill all of their rights, overcome your nuffs and treat them totlly equal (to what you have control) and adequatley provide for all those children, May Allah give you the strength, will, provisions and wisdom to do so, Ameen. You will be contributing to our ummah a great deal, in so many ways.
For the: “eye’s ONLY for me” sista’s
Masha Allah. May Allah increase your faith in this and all other areas. Ever since I accepted Islam 4yrs ago, I can honestly say that I have never had a problem with polygyny. I actually prefer it. I think it can be a very beautiful experience for every one if they can just overcome their nuffs and jealousy. I know we are made from the crooked part of the rib and being jealous is a part of our natural make up. But we should try to over come this flaw. What happened to wanting for your sister what you want for yourself. As long as that man can make you feel how you want to feel when your with him, why is it so hard for you to want your sister in islam to be provided that same feeling, insha Allah, even if it means with your husband. It has been my experience, to witness, that people who adimately don’t want polygyny get the worst of it. Allah is gonna test you in your areas of weakness. How often do you see that if you like something of this dunyah so much ( you have some material possession that you love) that Allah somehow takes it away. Allah ordains things for a reason and as you can clearly see, woman out number the men and we all have to get married at one time or another. So try to open your hearts and minds. Polygyny too, can bring you and your husband closer together and increase his love for you. Just remember, your husband is YOUR ticket to jannah, not vice versa. Your gonna have to share him in jannah anyway so get practice now. Allah loves the one who sacrifices for his sake.
Assalam Alaikum,
Honestly, I just want to be with some one who is compatible with me. He does not have to be perfect at all. Just perfect for me
A dream marrage to me is having a mate, walking along with me.
Love, affection, mercy, sympathy, caring & humbleness towards each other for the sake of Allah. understanding & patience is something everyone has to improve, which i think solves most of the problems.
Correct each other, learning something new everyday & ignoring mistakes .. this is a life after marrage is my dream…
May Allah guide us towards the right path & give us what is best for us.
ameen
Patience! Patience! Patience….
I need my husband to just let things go and move on from matters of dispute a lot faster from what currently occurs
Also, separation from a culture that has a lot of talk about others.. I want him to not be like his parents or his grandparents who grew up in a society that had a lot of jealousy, money-pride, and back-biting… we are better than that and he needs to know that a way to successfully live with each other means two things: culture and discussion about US and our life only.
salam alaikum
here is a short summary…
i dream about being the best pious wife and finding the best pious husband possible. i want to be the pious wife in actions, thoughts, words. wanting to look after the one whom he loves, his mother and father. being a role model for his sister. someone who is with him through hardships and support him physically financially like Hadhrat Khadijah to Prophet Muhammad (saw) who was his favourite wife. i want to be able to joke with him like Hadhrat Aisha and keep this marriage enlightened.
i also dream about getting islamic knowledge from him and spending time islamically rather than going out to restuarents, etc.
my wants, aspirations are:
- becoming an islamic/religious studies teacher
-going hajj with my spouse
-going to a porr country and helping the poor,- i dream of building an orphanage for the poor with my husband.
i stay up in night dreaming about having a loving relationship with husband, i dream about me bieng there for him in every hardship sympathising and empathising with him and giving advice.
fulfilling duties of a wife e.g. household work.
looking after his mother and father treating them like my own loving them because they are the parents of the one i love my husband.
wa alaikumussalam warahmatullah.
p.s i hope my dreams aspirations has helped you in some way and forgive me if it was tooooo long to read. i am not a scholar nor a knowledgeable person but just wanted to say…
May Allah always guide us unto the straight path and manifest our intentions in our actions. ameen
in addition to the previous comment, i wanted to say that i dont stay up in night dreaming, but if i were to then this is what i would dream of.
and i also want a stable upright family and teach my children the fundamantals of islam aswell as other things.
insha Allah
Fee Amanillah
I wish to be married to someone who has Islamic Adab and who has this deen in him and always striving for it. Someone who respects his elders and is kind to his equals and those who are younger.
i just want to be happy. i would like a marriage where i am respected by my partner who sees me as an equal. i’d like us to have similar goals and for him to be supportive of me in whatever i am doing.
i would like someone who is easygoing and who doesn’t hold onto the past or make mountains out of molehills. this is very important.
i basically want that old cliche… a best friend as my partner and companion.
Assalamu alaykum wr wb
I am dreaming about man who will be really smarter then me (using that in good way), who will be with strongr iman than me and in same time with more wisdom then me to know how to make me better then him
Someone who likes females, who is real man but in same time who will not look my kids or have bad dreams, or use internet to look bad girls or porno videos or to look around on girls or on guys to make bisexual relations with them…
Simply someone who knows how to love real female. Who is clean in mind and body and who can sing good for my soul only
….ufff it is enough
while reading comments i know exactly who had what problems before and who is who and sometimes who comes from which culture :)))
salam
jazakallah kulle khair o team because they want to understand us
What do you DREAM about the MOST?
Used to dream not any more, we get everything in life that we truly desire. I missed the prime time.
What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
I wasted my youth over education and career, now I want a family. May be its too late to ask.
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
I do not stay up nor dream.
As humans we have a tendency to believe that we’re masters of our destinies. The reality is all we have are a few choices. Few years back I made a bad choice. I decided to delay getting married and focus on my career. I missed that moment, I got what I strived for but today I have no one to share my success with. Words such as compatibility, chemistry, perfect match, etc have different meanings as we grow. Bottom line, please try not to mess with time and do not miss the moment. Hopefully you’ll make better choices and have a blessed life.
What do you DREAM about the MOST?
having a loving husband, someone who i can share everything with. also, someone who will help me for this world as well as the hereafter.
What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
- to be a best muslim i can be
- have a good islamic husband
- have a marriage where we can both become better muslims, insha allah
- have islamically sound children
- meet my husband and kids (if i live for that long) in paradise, insha-allah
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
- whether i will ever find that guy :P.Insha-allah, i need to put my trust in allah because he knows what’s best for me.
A wife who will love my mother for who she is (i have heard a lot of mom-in law, daughter-in-law feuds).
A wife who is open as ever, and doesnt hide emotions
A wife who understands when the husband really doesnt have money
A wife who aims to benefit the community, whether it is through teaching, activities, even providing food to neighbors etc…
the wisdom behind the creation of eve from adam’s rib is to protect his herat, the source of emotions and feelings, to be the gate of his heart and for him to be her man that she would depend and lean on and seek for shelter.
the marriage of my dreams would come true when i share my life with a man of mind and heart, a man he would always know that i’m not perfect, but i seek for perfection for him, so he will forgive and forget.
we would share the same goal and that is to be able to build and be a stronge block in this ummah.
to @Wisdom is no Mans territory
i agree with you that is really hard today to find man with wisdom
but as hadith said there is part of wisdo humanbeeing, try to get it.
You din’t miss the moment, BECAUSE IT WAS NOT YOUR MOMENT AT ALL!!!
All what we miss was not for us, and all what happend to us we were not able to miss…hadith said that not me.
And du3a can change destiny. Pray and we will pray for you also.
May Allah help all of us, ameen
A nice trend that is noticeable here…
The ladies want to be excellent wives, pleasing to their husbands and supportive of them. On the other hand, the men are saying they would like their wives to be open with them, sharing their thoughts and feelings and great companions in general. Isn’t this what each side really wants?
I dream of having a married life in which my wife and I follow our deen in its purest form. I come from South Asia our version of Islam is badly corrupted with cultural practices borrowed from pre-partition Hinduism. Several of our rituals equate to Shirk (may Allah protect us), others negate basic human rights and these give a bad face to our faith. Now that I’m aware of these, I’ve made the necessary changes to my life style. Hopefully I’ll find someone who can see matter of faith more clearly than I can so we may acquire piety.
I always dream of a marriage wherein we’ll treat each other with utmost love, care,understanding and, above all, the fear of Allah.
A marriage in which my spouse, my partners, the children and I will live our lives in complete obedience to the rules of Allah and sunnah of His Rasul, Muhammad (S.A.W).
@ 51: Optimistic Amatullah.
What you said after: ‘For the: “eye’s ONLY for me” sista’s’..
Was simply Subhaanallah. I’ve never heard a sister say that before, I thought they never existed in the West! Reverts are always inspiratons. You should tell more sisters what you said! It’s truly a shame to see many sisters consider it a ‘taboo’ issue, let alone it was their creator ALLAH who put it there. (Shows what society has done to us…)
May Allah grant YOU the highest of Paradise. AlFirous. And of course an amazing husband! You deserve it. Ameen.
Wa’aalikum salaam
It’s mandatory for all Muslims to take care of their parents especially when they get old, there as several Hadiths on this topic.
Having said that, nowhere have I read that it’s the wives responsibility to help take care of husband’s parents. Do correct me if I’m wrong, I’ll classify this as a cultural corruption.
A few brothers have expressed this as one of their dreams. Some sisters have also offered such support on this blog.
The way I see, if a spouse is supportive, helpful and accommodating on this matter we can’t ask for more, it’s not obligatory for our spouses to help out with our parents. If they choose to do so voluntarily may Allah reward them for that, expecting such support is not appropriate, it shows how incapable a person really is, who can’t even care for his parents himself. This matter should be treated the same way for husband’s parents or wives parents. Let’s get rid of hypocrisy, please.
Assalamu Alykum brother and sister
I dont remember most of my dream, i know that usualy start what I did all day and then its just goes to its own…
i think about who is going to be my life partner, if that person going to be good muslim,wife, mother and person. no one is perfect but close to it, try to be better muslim.
its hard to find someone nice with some balance with deen n duynia, most of people look for status, income, position. what happen to deen, honesty.
May Allah grant us all the highest of Paradise IA. And of course an amazing Wife/husband! we all deserve it. Ameen.
Wa’aalikum salaam
brother and sister
Brothers considering polygyny in the west should ask themselves the following questions:
What will your second wife be called according to the law of the land, a girl friend, a mistress or a prostitute?
If you have children from both marriages, how will you make sure they all inherit equally?
If you have an employment based health coverage that covers a family and kids, how is your second family going to get the same coverage?
These are just a few points to think, if you talk to the Imam or someone of knowledge in your community they’ll guide for the best. We all know our deen allows polygyny, at the same time it commands JUSTICE.
the marriage of my dreams is for both of us to love each other so much that we miss each other when we depart from one another like newly weds…tyring to keep the marriage very alive, always!…also, i would love it if we both showed mercy, understanding, care to one another and never took each other for granted…and never compared how much one is doing for the other, but is always grateful for how much we do for one another be it little or a lot…always happy and content…
it is also very very very important that we work together on everything including housework, taking care of children, teaching one another, teaching our children…our ultimate goal is the hereafter, so if we help each other towards a beautiful hereafter, that is the most important thing…my dream marriage would be one in which we both help each other and cooperate in bettering our akhira…
BismiLlah,
Assalamu ‘Alaykum,
After I read some of the comments I remembered a quote of al-Hafidh Ibn Kathir رحمه الله when he said, “Get your daughter married to muttaqi. If he doesn’t like her, his taqwa will prevent him from mistreating her.”
I would want my wife to:
1) be a student of knowledge -> someone who loves to learn, apply and teach others about Islam
2) treat my parents as she would treat her own parents or even a bit less (good of course)
3) be loving and caring
4) be faithful and loyal when I am not at home (according to the hadith)
5) be coolness of my eyes when I come back home from hard work (according to the same hadith plus ayah in Surat al-Furqan)
6) be my companion in being the student of knowledge -> revise Qur’an with me, study fiqh with me, enjoy tafseer with me, understand ahadith with me.
7) be my tilth as insha’Allah I will be hers.
Salam,
a wife that when i get home, doesn’t stress me out but eases my pain from the rough day at work.
to be a gangsta husband, putting effort in the relationship before askign for anything back.
always making sure me and her love Allah the most and don’t let the creation get in the way of the obligations to the creator.
Teaching her islamic knowledge that is authentic so that she is well-equipped to teach the kids.
Always having time to hang out with my wife and take her to dinner spots that rock, corks of coca cola that pop…
and always having enough money to feel happy and content, not to feel rich…
salamu alaykum
The marriage of my dream is to have a GOD fearing husband who will love,care and be blessed with childrens and offer all the responsibilities ordered islamically. And also my dream is for the marriage to be a source of happiness for us and our families
i only expect a brother who loves allah more than anything . i will inshaallah do alla those things which allah has ordered . our goal should b same that is to strive in the way of allah. for the love of allah .i actuallay for this purpose love the idea of polygamy it is easy to find that kind of husband if polygamy is practised widly in our country but unfortunatly no body is practicing it now
Assalamu Alaikum,
This is always a topic of conversation, and of dua’a. I guess it cannot hurt again.
I’m looking for a man.
A man who is fully upright and fears Allah at even his worst moments, and seeks Him and His forgiveness at his best. He loves his family and is beloved of his friends, and is constantly trying to follow the example of the Prophet saws within his ability. He seeks first to understand, then be understood. He gives and allows others to give. And he does not consider any of the above to take in any way from his masculinity.
The husband of my dreams is a hard worker and the true head of his household, extremely intelligent, one who consults me fully, and then makes major decisions based on that and what he knows is right within Islam. Of course, he understands the value of time and of good interpersonal communication.
I cannot wait to begin to set and meet goals for my family with that man.
I dream about my husband holding me in his arms and making me feel protected. I dream of looking into his eyes and telling him he is the purpose of why im breathing and where I find peace in my heart. I want him to be my strength my back bone my hope for everything. My ticket to jennah…helping eachother get closer to Allah swt and seeking his pleasure, the ultimate purpose. I will keep praying qiym al layl until I find him. If I don’t find him on earth atleast I know inshallah I will meet him in jennah one day. Knowing he exists is beautiful within itself.
Assaalamu Alaikum Wa Ramatullahi Wa Barakatuhu wa Maghferatuhu:
I dream of a marriage to a pious Muslim woman belonging from extremely regious family; she must be wearin sharee NIQAB . In my dream my wife would be willing to help around the house like our beloved prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and strive to please Allah.
Ma’salaama
Bismillah as salamu alaikum wa rahmatullah.
What do you DREAM about the MOST? Tranquil house.
What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS? To own my own business and finish school.
What do you stay up at night dreaming about? Working/business or finishing school.Barrak Allah fiik.
Salaams,
Wishes never come true :’( I learnt that lesson at rather early age…yet didn’t stop dreamin and wishin :p
He must treat me in exactly the same manner as RasulAllah treated Ayesha RadiyAllah ‘Anha!!!!!!! He must do so at least in this world only…if not forever…Why? Because in the hereafter I will be with RasuAllah (pbuh)…you know…we will be with those whom we love the most :)))
*l-o-n-g sigh*
But there was no one like the Messenger (pbuh) of mine before him (pbuh) and there will be no one like him (pbuh)…!!!!!!
See, wishes never come true in this life!
BismillAllah’ir Rahman’ir Rahim, AlhamdulillAllahi Rabbil Alameen, Wassalaato Wasalaamo Ala Rasoolhil Amin.
Assalaamu Alaykum,
Before I take stab answering your questions, I would like to thank you Shaykh Yaser Birjas as a brother for all the great work you are doing and you have done, may Allah grant you Imaan and Saber.
What I dream about the most, is that Ummat Muhammad realize “Marriage in the 21st century is of an Epidemic concern.” The Muslims who are looking for marriage can be placed into several categorizes, each defines what their primary issues are. You see, most of the external issues that affect a Muslim e.g. parents,family, friends, TV, yes and Television lead to stereotyping oneself into a hole, which as hard as they try to fix, the deeper they get. But before they can cope with the external issues they have to work internally with themselves, and that is one of the biggest struggles a human has. The causes are two enemies, the Shaytan and the Nafs. If a you manage to keep the Shaytan away and tame your Nafs, you will find it much easier to find the partner you will be happy with, inshAllah.
I my self went through a tough marriage which lead to a divorce (children where involved) and I reflect from that experience. I’ve see the worst, so bad that I lost around 35 lbs in 2 months. It was the most devastating thing that any person could go through, and I’ve been through a lot. What happened to me realized that I will not allow any human go through the same experience I went through, if I do, I’m not a human.
I want to be able to help Muslims not to fall into the same trap that the Shaytan will end up placing them in, my Aspiration is to create method(s) and process to help facilitate Muslims who are looking to get married in the right direction inshAllah.
I stay up night dreaming about a unified Umma, who understands being ONE united is as important as eating, drinking and breathing. As the Prophet (PBuH) last sermon said “Beware of Satan for the safety of your religion. He has lost all hope that he will ever be able to lead you astray in big things, so beware of following him in small things.” The small things which add up to big. It’s like smoking cigarettes, when you first try, it’s one cigarette, then one more, then later 2,3,4 and then after several days you are smoking a pack of cigarettes thinking that you where only going to try just one small one, and years come, you realize that you are now addicted, and it’s tough to stop, it’s not impossible but tough.
I hope this all made sense, and I pray that every potential Muslim who is in search of a partner for marriage, that they have the right intentions and not to be fearful proposing, because Allah will truly guide you to the right one, inshAllah, be firm.
Wa salaamu alaikum wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatuh.
What do you DREAM about the MOST?
What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
I dream of having a man in my life who strives to be like our prophet (saws)in all ways!! and I should be his most beloved person that he owns!! he finds me beautiful in all ways, loves me a lot, play with me, travel the world with me, and laugh open heartedly with me and find comfort in me he should want me to be his wife in jannah too! Learn deen with me and help me become a better muslimah and a source of jannah for me. There are so many things am not able to put it here due to lack of words!!!In short, he should be able to fulfill all my spiritual, mental and physical needs and I should fulfill his..
Wants and aspirations.. Achieving the above qualities in my future life partner. I aspire to learn quran and quote it and bring people to islam inshaAllah..
# What do you DREAM about the MOST?: that i will be financialy independent.
# What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS? i want to be a mother and have a career too.
# What do you stay up at night dreaming about? that i will find someone i can share the good and bad with and who ca share theirs.a life partner.
What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
I want to be treated as a person with a brain,soul and a LIFE before a female. If I achieved that; then, I want to serve my life’s partner and give them whatever I wish to give for own myself. Someone who fears ALLAH… and has NO culture ignorant customs and traditions, nor a bit of it in his blood. That is basically my dream marriage,want and aspiration.
I dream of marrying the man that proposed to me 8.5 years ago and asked me to wait…. still waiting! Insha’Allah it will work out.
What do you DREAM about the MOST?
i deam that there is man for me out there .. i mean living in the west seems that there is no men that are really ready for marrige..
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
I deam that i ll find the person for me .. i mean what can a girl dream off more then eh good husband .. family and learning her deen .. that what i dream off anyways =)
What do you DREAM about the MOST?
a nice life with a godly man
1. cant overbearing
2. somewhat attractive
3.someone to protect and provide for me
4.affectionate
5. will tell me when im wrong and congradulate me when im right
What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
1. to make god happy and to have a family who is in his favor
2. to be the best mom and wife in history lol
3. work as a correctional nurse
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
a wonderful hubby , 2 kids , 1 dog and house in newmexico or arizona
■What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
■What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
Assalamualaikum,
ok I am doing this on the sly and really hoping that people are not reading this…*looks over shoulder*
■What do you DREAM about the MOST?
Getting married to a man of my dreams!
■What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
The Qualities I want in a husband;caring, compassionate, good listener and is always interested in what I have to say, problem-solver, good communicator, has a sense of humour, able to control his anger, well educated (esp in deen), similar background to me I was born and bred in England so definitely someone who can relate with living and growing up the west. Someone who is able to look past the exterior and truly realise that beauty is skin deep. Fair and balanced.
Aspirations: to strive hard to make the marriage work, to bring up our children in an Islamic environment (within the home/schooling etc), to be on a quest to make dawah everyday (spread the word of Islam until our last dying breaths), to able to communicate with our children openly about many issues (pertaining to the world and Islam). To make our children Alims/Hafiz etc. Basically to have children to carry on the legacy of Islam so that Inshallah us parents benefit from the fruits of our hard work in the hereafter.
And last but not least what do I stay up dreaming about at night?
To be in the arms of the love of my life (I think I can speak for most sisters lol)
Wasalaam.
1)What do you DREAM about the MOST?
2)What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
3)What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
1) Wondering what my husband will be like, who allah has in store for me. Marrying a brother who is religious and simple and keeps to the deen. Someone who i can spend time with, doing everything and anything.. just sharing the little things in life and inshallah having a BIG family.
2) Someone i can grow in the deen with, i have a lot more to learn and it be nice to have someone who is on the same jourany, someone constantly looking to better thier knowladge and someone who wants a companion on this journay, a wife and a best friend.
I aspire to be a good mother, to nuture my children to be good muslims.
Someone i can share things with, my knowladge and what i know, my ideas and my thoughts inshallah helping us grow togther. Someone i can look after and love, someone of my own inshallah. (I dont share so no second wives.
3)Not being so lonely, i suppose like most other women going to bed and being with your soul mate your companion.w
A man who has comman ground, our foundations are the same so no matter how else we differ our aspirations and our goals are the same, we strive to worship allah everyday and strive to please allah to get to jannah inshallah. To raise pious children and better our community.
Someone who has Taqwa so he wont ever take advantage fo me, or do things selfishly as he fears allah. Someone who loves me for the sake of allah and does things for me for the sake of allah, even when he doesnt want to… he does it becuase he loves allah and he therefore loves me.
jazakallah khier
The marriage of my dreams is to marry a stranger upon the deen follower of the Sunnah a coolness to my eyes. A Muslim man who is humble and fearful of the akhirah. Haleemun (soft/kind/caring)I want him to be the best to his family, protect us, encourage us, make amazing dua’as for us, love us. Strive to protect his family from very evil, a leader who is strives to be different from the Jews/Christians. I want us to have an entire family that strives to seek the truth, be just and call to Allaah. I want my husband to remind our offspring about the rights of their mother and I will remind them about the rights of their father. For my husband to help me when I get angry and for me to help him when he is angry. I want my husband to sit on (literally way me down/smother) me when I get nervous until it passes—I get panic attacks when I freak out….I freak out because of sins/responsibilities.
For us to gain deep knowledge, make lots of money in the wisest ways and spend it on the path of Allaah, remember Allaah with much remembrance and taste no drink the sweetness of Imaan. I want me family to sit before fajr and recite Quran, and classical works on tafseer, to pray qiyaam sometimes together some times alone for us all to be skillful in arabic…adopt Islamic tradition. I hope the we take the truthful as companions, aide each other against Shytaan. Become relievers to those close to us in secret/open. To be revivers of the Sunnah merciful to the people especially caring/merciful to the believers. For us to be friends with the masakeen and the poor…to love Allaah and His messenger more then we love each other and anything else besides them. For us to cry in secret over the death of the Prophet SAW and the trails of the dunyah/grave/akhirah. For us to spread cheer to Muslims who are being tested…
To be amongst the true slaves of Allaah…insha Allaah ta3alaa it’s not a dream it’s something that I strive for.
wa bilLaahi tawfeeq
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What do you DREAM about the MOST?
I dream of my husband waking me up for Tahajjud … I dream of having a united front against our kids inshAllah…(ive always loved my parents good cop/bad cop routine!)
What are some of your WANTS and ASPIRATIONS?
I want to be the one woman for my husband…who he knows he can rely on for anything and everything. I want a husband who will be my sheild against the outside world, although many have told me I’m usually the leader/ king of the jungle…thats only because I havent found my king.
I want to have sons and daughters who will be the leaders of this ummah…I want my husband to be the father when he is meant to be a father, the friend when he is meant to be a friend, the leader, the protector…all the time being actively supported by me.
What do you stay up at night dreaming about?
I stay up thinking about the family Allah Most High has destined for me…and there is this blur in my husbands face… just waiting to replace the blur with a face inshAllah
my dream marriage would be a simple family life where I’ve a husband whom I can trust, who lowers his gaze for the sake of Allah, who stays up at night for qiyam & prays with me, where I’ve a partner who has so much haya that he doesn’t like free-mixing neither wanna mix with non-mahrams (if it is inevitable such as at work thats different) whther its my sisters/sisters-in-laws or his sisters-in-laws or any other sister in islam who is his non-mahram. In short a good life with a man who have ijjah, who doesn’t let me mix with non-mahram neither he mixes with his ghair mahram. Loves me & only me for the sake of Allah (no second marriage untill I die) & provides for me & my kids in future. Who is strong in his deen & has much taqwa. If he turns out to be a sincere, pious, family man then alhamdulillah because I’m also verrrry simple & family oriented.
I want him to give me attention when I need it. If I do any mistakes then try to correct me nicely & be my friend. I didn’t have any ‘true friend’ throughout my life. Thus I want a hubby who takes care of me like my parents, chill with me like my buddy & guides me when I need it.
If I get a husband who has such taqwa & sense of ghirah I’ll be ready to leave my professional life for him but the thing is how many brothers lower their gaze now-a-days?!! I don’t understand whats the meaning of keeping beard if they can’t control their nafs. May Allah guide us all & grant us righteous spouses! Ameen.
1) a peacuful married life built on:
truth, sincerity, love, mercy, understanding and devotion…
2) being comfort of the eyes, and peace of the heart for each other…
3) walking on the way to Jannah supportig each other…
4) together forever… (being best for each other in deen, dunya and aakhirah)
5) having pious offsprings…
INSHA ALLAH!
may all my muslim brothers’ and sisters’ dreams come true… Aameen!
I wish to marry a man who will always be gentle with me, and if Allah bestows me with such a husband, I dream to inshaAllah bring the deen of Islam to his home and (our) children to the best of my ability. Jazak Allah khair.
I would like a wife just as described by Sister Amatullah however, in her case she needs a husband.
First of all, what you people are doing is simply amazing! Jazakum Allah khair! I am a 23 years old unmarried girl, and I just want to share a piece of thought - you may call it an advice - with all those reading these postings [both men and women]. This is something I have learned from my recent past experience. Before you start searching for a life partner, you should FIRST always clear things out with your parents. I mean, your parents should be the first ones to know what your expectations are from your future life partner. This stands particularly important for the men who leave the final decision about their marriage solely on their parents - which is a common practice in many cultures, though not a requirement in Islam. And I’ll explain why. You see, if a girl gets a proposal that her parents agree to, but she doesn’t, she has the right to say No to the proposal and her parents do not have the right, according to Islam, to force her into that marriage. But if a man proposes to a woman, and both the man and the woman feel compatible enough to get married to each other, but later on the MAN’S parents refuse to accept the girl as their daughter-in-law, then that may have a serious psychologically negative impact on the girl. So please my brothers in Islam, be careful that you do not end up messing things like this, as it may affect you too in some psychological way. We are all, as single Muslims, both men and women, immature about how to go about building up this most intimate of all relationships. And my intention of sharing this with you was that I felt perhaps I could benefit someone with what I had to learn the hard way out. Wassalamu alaykum wa rehmatullah!
I dream of marrying a man who is emotionally strong and financially independent, whom I can understand and who is always kind with me.
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