Comments on: LIVE from ISNA: 2 Minute Audio

By: Salwa

Salwa — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 17:27:37 +0000

Asalam waliykum warahmatuallahu wabarakatu.

I think this sort of training is needed desperatly. Today people have high expectations of marriage. As the Shiekh mentioned lots in his videos.. people expect marriage to be like in the movies and also to solve thier past problems.
Its good to have training and advice given before marriage aswell as during the early days of marriage and later on when its tested by time.

Lately marriages within muslim communities are breakign down becuase we are adopting the western lifestyle and thier concept of marriage. We have expectation all take and no give. Astagfirallah. I have seen myself girls my age even younger marry and then few months or a year later divource. Because they were too involved with the physical accpect the romantic aspect of the marriage then the actual day to day living and duties and roles of one another. Alhamdulillah they have learnt from it and i have also and it has changed my views.

But also just like learning to drive a car you dont actually know really how to drive until you are on your own. So its good to have training and advice given but after you are married then you really know the meaning of marriage and it finally hits you. So you can read a million books but it wont ever properly prepare you, wil only give you an idea and maek you think a little.

But i think the youth should not just go into marriage without councling.. it should happen before the nikah and afterwards. Inshallah this will help reduce sham marriages and help us think about important aspets of marriage. Responsibilty and given. I think parents need to paly this role of educating thier children. it shouldnt just be on the imams. parents are gaurdians of thier children and thier teachers.

jazakallah khier

By: Heart-beats

Heart-beats — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 04:38:40 +0000

From the comments I’ve read,this training is really needed.Indeed, it is a great help. It is need to wake the dreamers LOL,the young sisters and brothers whom are sitting there not wanting to face reality.

By: Khadzjah

Khadzjah — Sun, 09 Aug 2009 04:15:13 +0000

Bismillah as salamu alaikum. For, some reason brother’s seem more opposed to getting counseling. Even to go and talk to the Imam the first thing some think oh, you want to divorce me. Or, you just want to spread our business. I feel that couseling is good sometimes when things are put on paper you can see yourself and whne you read it then you can see yourself even a little more clearer. So, counseling is good, masha’Allah. Barrak Allah fiik.

By: Madinah

Madinah — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 02:49:29 +0000

Assalam ‘aleykum warahmatullah wabarakatuh

I couldn’t agree more that trainings are important before marriage. In fact, I think it could be required because most of the time people enter the marriage life thinking they could handle EVERYTHING and know EXACTLY what to do. And again most of the time it’s the people who never thought they would have seen themselves in divorce who end up in divorce, may Allah protect us from divorce! To operate something, we should know what it is about. Many time, divorce occurs for simple reasons that could have easily been solved if the couple knew how to handle it. There wouldn’t be a thing unsolvable if both have the right intentions and try to overlook some faults of the other and also find a practical way of approaching mistakes. But of course Allah knows best. I sure have learned a lot through listening to A LOT of lectures on marriage and reading articles Alhumdulillah. I am still learning and will continue to learn insha Allah.

May Allah help the Muslims to get closer to the deen and clean our understanding of marriage.

Ma’salama

By: Nadirah

Nadirah — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 02:28:14 +0000

ASA- I personally attend 12 weeks of marriages classes at an Islamic Counseling center in the Atlanta area every year. It’s an awesome course for free that 3 Imaams and a Sheikh give it and I learn something new every year. These brothers give pre-marital and post-marital counseling and I admire the great work they do for the sake of Allah. I feel confident that between my own reading, seeking counsel from my Wali and these classes yearly I am well prepared for marriage. I also feel that knowledge is a life long process that should be continued throughout the marriage to keep everything on track. Every year mostly married Muslims attend the course, and they seem to find a great benefit in it.

Ma Salaama, Tandy

By: Ambreen

Ambreen — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 17:50:04 +0000

Eisa — Very well said ..AMEEN*
I agree with most of us here ….times and views are changing in this new world and I think as we move along we need to make sure we don’t loose ourselves. Education and setting a strong foundation is just one step towards a more healthy and prosperous future, InshAllah.